The Four Agreements~
Andy, my husband, is reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I read this book years ago, and have since, given this little treasure of a book to friends and family as gifts. I re-read the book this week appreciating the inherent wisdom behind the four agreements.
Be Impeccable With Your word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform you life.
Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
I had the opportunity to work with agreement two yesterday after a phone call with someone I love dearly. I took a hurtful comment personally. In the midst of experiencing the 'ouch', I was able to draw back and take a larger perspective and 'hold' what was truly happening; in all of its complexity. This was not easy to do because I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach. And, it was not instantaneous, either. It took some processing, sorting through, and crazy dreams last night where my "stuff" was being stirred.
As you work with The Four Agreements be kind to yourself. It takes vigilence, gentleness with self, and a dash of humor~